I think that sharing our experience is one of the fastest routes to healing. I have been overwhelmed with all of the emails and letters I have received over the past month. Each one takes me back to a moment that I myself lived through, and each one also makes me more grateful for being able to reach out to others. The following is just one example of someone else’s journey and what their feelings are about it. I hope that you find this helpful. I would love my facebook page and my blog to become a forum for others to share their voices.
Thank you very much for writing this book! I don’t even know how I came across it, but I am ever so grateful that I did. My ex husband was diagnosed in March of 2006 and was in remission for nearly 2 years. He then did a year of chemo. We were divorced in September of 2010 and it was shortly thereafter that the tumor began to grow again. He passed away on June 24th 2011. We were together every day for the last 3 weeks of his life and I have to hope that he knew that he was loved and cared for. I went through so many of the same emotions you did. Unfortunately the abusive behavior reached a pinnacle that I could not sustain. I will never know how much of that behavior was Eddie or the tumor. I think the guilt will always remain, but I may never have all the answers.(Oligodendroglioma, temporal lobe and insular cotex.) You validated so much for me. My oldest was 12 as well and my youngest was 9 when Eddie passed. They are my little troopers. I still have to deal with a house in foreclosure but it’s a little easier now that it has been nearly 7 months. Thank you for all your gems of wisdom. (They are highlighted!) I made mistakes of my own…with men. I think I was seeking solace and at times I just want to be held. I can not tell you what it was like to read your words, your emotions and finally not feel ALONE. Thank you for having the grit to put yourself back together and the courage to put your words, your experience and hard won lessons in print!
May all the blessings in this world be yours and your children’s.