Memories can be paralyzingly painful. But they can also be remarkably energizing and inspiring. I have begun to recognize what particular memories are going to send me into a deep funk, and before writing this book and speaking about it, I would do an immediate u-turn to avoid those feelings. I am not saying that I wanted to completely forget the hard times, but I knew that what I had gone through was not typical of what my life had been nor would become.

Now, I recall the toughest of times through speaking about them with others, and look at what it took to get me through them. I do this for myself, and so that I can offer help to those who seem to be on the hard edge of being devoured by a similar experience. There is a brutal significant value in surviving grueling times, but the time to reflect for me—I think for anyone—is when it is small in the rear view mirror, not when it is still dominating the landscape.


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  1. Mary Emery

    Hi Catherine ~ is it possible to get a copy of your chapter that pertains
    to staying in a relationship?

    I would love to purchase your book but unfortunately I have been unemployed
    for some time and can’t afford it.

    Thank you

  2. Courtney

    Thank you Caterine for inspiring me today!!! I admire your advice to CG! I am an RN and have been cg since early on. I had a baby at 16, turbulent relationships with men, another boy at 28 and 95 Yo grandmother who I was POA, my father had stroke at age 56, my sister committed suicide,I went thru breast CA as my mom had a stroke while in chemo. Abusive husband and the fight for mine and mom’s life. I have a huge heart and my patients I care for so much. From my drinking, to relationships, to poor decisions and searching for Love I need instead of giving it so openly. I have not taken time for myself. This has caused a few meltdowns and now I am picking up the pieces humbly. My boys do not understand my search for me. They are in college now and have their own lives. So empty nest sets in to. All of these things plus much more have been overwhelming. I was once told I was on fire and everything around me was pouring fuel on me. As a CG I beg the other CG out their to take time for yourself. When life is all consuming and you lose yourself. Picking up the pieces afterwards is much more difficult and painful for yourself and all who love you!! I hope and pray your book is best seller. It will inspire others on their journey as we all need to know someone else understands and has been through something like ours. Thank You!!!

    • Courtney

      Sorry typo typing too fast- “Catherine”!! I apologize for mis- spelling your name!!

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