About Catherine

Catherine Graves is busy raising two children and volunteering for various causes, most recently the Phoenix Children’s Hospital Foundation, Florence Crittendon Center for Girls, Barrow’s Neurological Institute, and the Craniofacial Foundation of Arizona, among others.

She lives in Phoenix with her family. Checking Out: An In-Depth Look At Losing Your Mind is her first book.

In her debut memoir, Catherine shares her family’s personal experiences dealing with her husband’s out-of-character behavior. When she suspects him of having an affair – or possibly several affairs – Catherine is forced into extraordinary circumstances that none of us would ever want to be in.

From first recognizing a change in his behavior and fearing the worst, she must ultimately cope with what follows, though it will be far worse than she ever dreamed or anyone could have imagined. She finds herself having to make tough, life-changing decisions and navigating the consequences of those unforeseen situations. For all that is precious in life, one family is dragged to a dark place where survivors ultimately contemplate how to move forward by embracing the toughest year of their lives.

Checking Out invites us into Catherine Graves’ home as she asks us to join her on the journey of a family as they pull together in order to survive – proving once again that real life is all too often stranger than fiction. Ultimately, Checking Out is a survivor’s guide to making mistakes and having the courage to forgive ourselves for the decisions we make. In due course, readers come away with a sense of dignity, humanity, and acceptance for all of what fate allows.

“Catherine Graves is one of the strongest women I know. Her experience and the multitudes of emotion she faced before and during her husband’s illness – and how she dealt with the grief after his death is not only courageous – but a triumph. She is a shining example of perseverance through even the worst of pain.” -Catherine Anaya: Local T.V. News Anchor


Checking Out: An In-Depth Look At Losing Your Mind

Making mistakes and owning up to them can be difficult, but it’s feeling truly absolved that’s more difficult. In Checking Out: An In-Depth Look At Losing Your Mind, new author, Catherine Graves, does what shelves and shelves of self-help books could never do; Graves makes keeping it together a matter of forgiving ourselves and others—and when all else fails, knowing when and how to ask for help.

When her husband starts to act different and out of character, Catherine Graves suspects the worst—but while she needed confirmation of one sort, a different type of nightmare begins. With a cutting, plainspoken humor, Graves uses a sharp wit with a soft touch of irony to share the toughest year of her and her two children’s lives. It is the year her husband, her children’s stepfather, dies; it is a year in which nothing for their family will ever be the same.

Moving beyond survivor’s guilt and any sense of resentment, this poignant, bittersweet memoir is about tolerance and humility. It’s about a mother, a son, and a daughter pulling together in order to survive. Readers will respond to the narrator’s honesty—this sort of candor is hard to come by—and be thankful to lead less extraordinary lives. Catherine’s story is as dramatic as any thriller; ultimately, it motivates readers to accept the things in their lives that they cannot change.